27 Ways to Cultivate a Paris State of Mind

25 ways to cultivate a Paris state of mind

Are you tired of feeling constant worry, overwhelm and living life like a race?

For over 10 years, I tried every diet on the market, felt hopelessly inferior to everyone around me, and chronically worried about everything from work to how I was parenting my daughter. So, when I had arrived in Paris for the first time as a hot mess.

I wish I could tell you that after those 7 days in the City of Light, I magically transformed into a calm, cool and collected lady, but that is not my story. I came home with more questions than answers. However, I was asking better questions such as:

How can I create more joie de vivre?
What do I need to let go of?
What do I deeply want?
Where are my standards too low?
How can I combine ambition with ease?
How can I not get caught up in the overwhelm and comparison?
How can I take exquisite care of my body and drop the dieting insanity?

As I began living out the answers, the quality of my life began to change slowly. More importantly, I began to change as a woman.

My life looks and, even better, feels completely different from that girl who landed in Paris a decade ago.

This all happened because I figured out how to make Paris my state of mind.

Paris ignited a spark, and that spark has now grown into a flame where I deeply believe that women can live lives with more ease, elegance and style, and drop the constant striving and overwhelm that has too many women feeling frustrated, stuck and hopeless.

Since that trip, I have a passport full of Charles du Gaulle stamps, and a deep love for a city that changed me deeply and has spilled into my relationship with others, myself and my precious life.

Some people go to India for a spiritual experience; I make an annual pilgrimage to Paris.

I know it’s cliché, but Paris is like my therapist. She’s taught me so many things that I somehow failed to learn growing up — the importance of life’s simple pleasures, why style is important, how to add more beauty to an ordinary day, the beauty of being a woman, how to be confident, an appreciation of intellectual pursuits, how to truly enjoy food and wine, plus so much more.

You may be thinking, “Well, that’s nice, but I don’t live in Paris.” Maybe you’ve never even been.

It doesn’t matter. I live in a small ski town in Colorado.

Here’s the good news:

You can cultivate a Paris state of mind, no matter where you live.
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Whether you’re on a ranch in Montana, on a farm in Georgia or in the heart of Manhattan, you can learn to live with more style, elegance and joie de vivre.

If you’re exhausted from your current way of life. If you’re ready to indulge in the beauty of your life as it is right now, if you’re ready to cultivate a Paris state of mind….

Here are 27 ways to do it:

1. Practice being a flaneur

To flaneur is a Parisian art. It means to stroll, saunter or loaf. When was the last time you strolled down a street? Unfortunately, speeding and grinding our way through life has become the new norm. Not only is it killing us mentally, physically and emotionally, but we’re missing out on all the beauty and wonder that’s right under our nose. Slow it down. Take it in. Flâneur. The world will not fall apart. If it would, the French would be an extinct species.

2. Don’t apologize for your presence or needs

When a French woman cancels an appointment, accidentally bumps into you or decides to leave the party early, she does not feel the need to apologize. She’s not afraid of taking up too much space or fulfilling her own needs. She simply does what she needs to do, without apology. Sometimes, an apology is called for, but 99% of the time, it just screams “I don’t deserve it.”

3. Simplify your wardrobe

With beautiful Instagram photos of incredible outfits, it’s tempting to believe that more is better.  But, do you really need 25 pairs of heels or 10 designer handbags? Do you need to buy 10 of those classic white shirts because they are on sale? I am a huge advocate in women investing in what they love, and if a closet full of Louboutins is it, then go for it. However, I have discovered that most women are buying things for the wrong reasons — to fill a void or feel better. All the shoes in the world won’t give you that. I have found that more space in my closet creates more space in my life.

4. Invest in simple pleasures

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You don’t need a fresh bouquet of flowers or an intoxicating candle, but it’s the things in life we don’t need but deeply want that makes life enchanting. A Paris state of mind is not about being practical; it’s about being delighted. There’s no delight in denial of life’s simple pleasures.

5. Show up as the best version of yourself

Don’t wait for a special occasion to get dressed up and put your best foot forward. Bring an element of romance into your life by waking up each day and choosing to wear something that makes you feel fabulous. Dress up to stroll the supermarket aisles. Wear your cutest Lululemon for your hike. Throw on a skirt and cute wedges to bike to the farmer’s market. Believe what you want, but I deeply believe that what you wear matters. When you run into your ex or your possible future, you’ll thank me.

6. Ease into your day

Waking up checking emails, Facebook and other shenanigans is a recipe for disaster if you want a Paris state of mind. That screams, “My day is going to run me,” instead of you running your day. Each morning, you’ll find Parisians sitting at a cafe, sipping their espresso or cafe creme, reading the paper or simply watching the world wake up. Their way of being confirms a belief I choose to have, which is “There is no hurry.” You may not live in a cafe culture, but you can create your own. Spend a few moments enjoying a simple beverage and appreciating a new day. Everything will be waiting for you when you’re done.

7. Shop at your local farmer’s market

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Get to know the people who grow your food, invest in fresh, local ingredients and get some sunshine. There’s nothing quite like going to a local market, having a coffee, meeting your neighbors and coming home with food grown with love.

8. Get your exercise, in style

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People joke about the French not exercising. The joke is on us, because they are indeed an active culture. They simply prefer to make it look effortless by dressing up, jumping on their bike and cycling through the streets (with a dog or baguette in their basket). Added benefits include saving on your gas bill plus a fun form of exercise. In addition, you’ll find them walking through the streets instead of jumping in their car, finding a sport they love or lots of sex (yes, that counts too!).

9. Learn how to be a hostess

Every time I’ve been invited into a French person’s home, I am fascinated with how elegantly she is able to pull of something that seems so complicated with ease and confidence. She has most likely observed her aunts, grandmother and mother for decades be the lady of the house. While it’s not a skill we’re born with, being a gracious hostess is a learned artistry that each of us can gain with practice. The secret is two-fold: 1) knowing that simple is usually better and 2) developing your own unique hostessing style.

10. Create a bookshelf you love

When traveling to Paris (or anywhere, for that matter), I often rent apartments. With one glance at the bookshelf, I discover so much about the owner — her likes, loves and interests. What would I think if I looked at yours? I know I would have been horrified for someone to see my book collection years ago. It screamed, “My life is a mess, and I’m determined to fix it.” Now, it says, “Life is beautiful and I’m going to enjoy it.” When you look at your bookshelf, ask yourself, “Do these books excite or discourage me?” I think you know which ones need to go.

11. Invest in beautiful lingerie

You’ve probably heard the saying, “What you do behind closed doors is telling.” I’d like to add that what you wear underneath your clothes is too. A Parisian style expert once told me, “Lingerie is important because it’s the first thing you put on in the morning and the last thing you take off at night. It sets the tone for your entire day.” While most people won’t see what’s underneath your clothing, unless you’re a stripper (and in that case, I’m sure you have a great collection), you know. Everything is energy, including your underpinnings. So, it’s impacting you whether you realize it or not. My days of overwhelm and struggle were also marked with tattered bras and baggy panties. Coincidence? I think not.

12. Cultivate an air of mystery

The French say, “Pour vivre contente, vivons caches.” (Translated: To live happily, live hidden.) Instead of spilling your emotions to the man at the coffee shop, sharing the details of your personal life and business disputes all over Facebook, confessing your most sacred dreams to the neighbor who may not want to hear them, or telling everyone about your stomach bug, keep some of your sacredness to yourself instead of throwing them into the wind of life. Being authentic does not mean sharing every detail of your life.

13. Have a signature dish

A French woman usually has at least one signature dish (usually passed down from her mother) that she can pull out at a moment’s notice for a last minute dinner party or to impress her future mother-in-law. She’s cooked it many times, so it’s been tested and proven, leaving her to feel confident when it’s called upon. Find and perfect your dish. Make it so good that people will be begging for the recipe, but of course, it’s tucked away in your secret garden.

14. Learn the basics of wine

I believe a French bébé is born with wine being a second language. Maybe it’s because the mother had a few glasses when she was in utero or that she’s born into a culture where wine is a part of everyday life. However, for most of us, this is not the case. It wasn’t even allowed in my home. This led to moments of panic attacks as an adult when the wine list was passed my way. Because my deep desire was to be a worldly woman, I knew this was one skill I needed to possess, so I enrolled in sommelier school. However, you don’t have to know the best vintage of Bordeaux or about malolactic fermentation. Simply understanding what wines pair well with a dish, the appropriate glassware and a bit about wine regions, will guarantee that you are confident in your dining skills. Plus, I’d hate for you to make the mistake that I once did, pronouncing rosé like the flower. Or, you can do as I did for years and ‘fake it til you make it,’ but expect a few slipups.

15. Eat by the seasons

Have you ever tasted a juicy tomato in November? No, because tomatoes in November lack flavor. Living by the seasons is a way of life for the French. A Parisian will not be eating strawberries at Christmas or pumpkin in July. To enjoy the highest quality of food with the freshest flavors, it’s imperative that you eat by the seasons, preferably from local farms. Not only will you be supporting your community, you’ll be adding quality and delicious nutrition to your health. If you don’t know what foods are in season, here is a great guide.

16. Gather around the table (and stay there)

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My first meal with a French family lasted over four hours. It took place outdoors under a grapevine and kicked off with Campari. Slowly, the food was revealed in 8 courses spaced out for maximum enjoyment. The wine flowed with each dish. There were conversations filled with spirited debate, dry humour and philosophy on life, love and anything controversial. Not only was my appetite full, my complete love for life was overflowing. While four hour daily dinners aren’t possible for most of us (unless you live in Downton Abbey), it can be a reality more often than not.

17. Learn different ways to wear a scarf


If you know France, you know that the scarf is the Parisian woman’s signature accessory. But, did you know there are over 25 ways to wear one? Not only cahey, Tontan you get creative with ways to tie it around your neck, you can also tie it around your head, wear it as a bracelet, decorate your handbag or wear as a shirt. Who knew a square piece of cloth could do so much for a lady’s wardrobe? The Parisian, obviously.

18. Be a little messy

When a French woman walks out of her home, she is the embodiment of effortless style. She never wants to look too coiffed, as that would signify that she must try hard at it. So, she always leaves something appearing undone. She may wear a beautiful ball gown skirt and leave her hair a bit tousled. Or, she leaves her face bare with a red, bold lipstick. Whatever she does, we admire the ease in which she pulls it off. We don’t see the hours and practice she’s put into doing it. These days, I’m all about the messy hair. Not only does it save me time, it reminds me how much I’ve let go from those days of meltdown when my hair refused to cooperate. Allowing myself to be a little messy in my appearance has spilled over into granting the same permission in my life. I’ve learned to let go of the perfectionism and let life be a little messy. Sweet freedom!

19. Create a special ritual

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Rituals add meaning to our lives. If your life feels out of control, I challenge you to do what a Parisian does, even though it most likely will trigger your mind’s greatest fear — running out of time: make space for a daily ritual. It offers a time-out in a hectic day, gives us space to reflect upon and celebrate our lives and provides moments to just be. Whether it’s morning journaling or afternoon tea, as little as fifteen minutes a day can add beauty and depth to your life.

20. Visit a local exhibit or museum

The French love the arts like Americans love football. Both are great (I happen to be a huge football fan). However, in our society that’s mostly dominated by our rational, logical mind, indulging in the arts helps us tap into our creative, emotional and adventurous right brain. Not to mention, it also makes us more diverse human beings. Plus, it’s embarrassing when the name Dali is mentioned, and you assume they must be talking about food from India (true story). Let’s just say I’ve come a long way.

21. Create or keep traditions

Oh, how the French adore their traditions. Love them or hate them, we respect them, because I deeply believe it’s something we desire in our own lives. I don’t advocate keeping traditions you don’t love. What I do propose is that you find your own traditions that support living a beautiful life. Whether it’s cooking a certain meal on Christmas day or a monthly game night, it’s imperative that we have touchstones to our past. With so much hurrying and pressure, more than ever, we need to feel a sense meaning in our lives, and traditions are a great way to do it.

22. Eat less but better (butter)

The French do not deny themselves pleasure from food; they embrace it. As a result, they don’t have these crazy relationships with food, filled with deprivation, restriction or insane rules. Food is so much more than fuel. It carries great pleasure, stories and tradition. Reducing it down to a scientific formula is very American (and have you noticed that we’re becoming more obsessed and sick?). When you cultivate a Paris state of mind, food becomes something to be enjoyed, not denied. The result is that you stop this crazy yo-yo effect of being good or bad. You are simply a woman who eats delicious foods made with high quality ingredients until elegantly satisfied, including real butter. (The fact that I am writing this is a miracle, as I didn’t believe it to be possible, and yet here I am telling you that it is.)

23. Stop trying to be happy all the time

Edith Wharton said, “If only we’d stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time.” It’s true, the French are an melancholic bunch. It’s part of their joie de vivre. Sounds like a paradox, but consider this: if you don’t resist negative emotion and label it as bad, you realize it’s just a normal part of life. It’s okay to be sad, angry or whatever you’re feeling. And, when you want to feel differently, you get to do that too. True joie de vivre is not about being happy all the time; it’s about embracing all of life.

24. Enjoy the outdoors with a picnic

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One of my favorite things to do in Paris is stop by the boulangerie, fromagerie and any other -ie store that has fabulous foods, grab a bottle of good wine and head to a park to enjoy a good book, great company and beautiful day at a picnic. It’s a super easy way to get your Vitamin D and gather friends. Like rituals, it’s a simple way to slow life down and savor simple luxuries. If you can find macarons, even better.

25. Treat service professionals as equals, not as your servant

In France, waiters are trained professionals and take great pride in their occupation. They are not looked down upon but seen as an essential part of a beautiful dining experience, and are treated with respect and admiration. Practice your French manners by treating not only waiters, but all people who offer you services to make your life better or easier with the utmost respect. Thank your cashier at the supermarket, show your UPS man delivering your Amazon purchases how much you appreciate him and never think of yourself above or below anyone. We are all in this thing together.

26. Embrace your age

Une femme d’un certain age is a celebrated in France (which is why I may retire there). Like fine wines, the French believe women get better with age (I certainly have). Yet, in many other cultures, we resist the inevitable process of aging. Stress, worry, bitterness and anger about your age shows in your attitude, scowl lines and results in your life. On the other hand, the Parisian woman knows it’s not about a number; it’s about her allure, confidence, intellect and joie de vivre. Age is simply a number. What do you want to make it mean?

27. Drop perfectionism like a patate chaude

Parisian women aren’t perfect, regardless of what the bloggers, articles and books say. They are women like us, with jobs, kids, husbands and dirty laundry. While I love being inspired by the Parisian lifestyle, I don’t use it as a ruler to judge how good or bad I am at it. The truth is that I will never be Parisian, no matter how hard I try. Guess what? Being okay with that is very Parisian. Oh, the irony. Cultivating a Paris state of mind isn’t about being perfect; it’s about living with joie de vivre. It’s impossible to be both a perfectionist and a lady in love with her life.

Paris truly is a state of mind. Whether you try all 27 ways or just one, you’ll notice that your quality of life will be impacted in the most fabulous way.

It’s time to say no to the fast-paced, hustling culture and learn to tend to the details of our daily lives.

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31 Responses to 27 Ways to Cultivate a Paris State of Mind

  1. Tonya,

    One of the major things i learned while in Paris was how to slow down and flaneur. While I don’t live in a place that has all the conveniences of Paris where you can just walk a few blocks or around the corner and get what you need I have learned how to slow down and not rush, which was such a self-imposed state of mind. I stop for a sunrise in the morning or sunset at night and sometimes take a photo of it, so I can enjoy the beauty of it in the moment. I no longer get up and hurry to get to work in the morning as it will wait for me. I no longer rush around frantically trying to get all the chores done because if something doesn’t get done, the world will not fall off it’s axis. It’s definitely a much more peaceful state of mind. From Paris and you, I’ve learned there is no rush for anything. For that I am so grateful! Thank you for the beautiful reminders.

    • Oh Kathy, you have such an eloquent way of inspiring through words. Yes, I deeply believe, “There is no hurry,” and life is a lot more fun with this belief tucked away in my mind. xoxo

      • I forgot to mention that I haven’t worn a watch in 6 months! I still flaneur wherever I need to go, but I don’t let time rule me. Love the inspirational guide!

  2. I love this! Every single point rings so true. You have a beautiful way of expressing (quite succinctly,I might add!) how to live a luxurious yet very attainable life. I enjoy following you on instagram as well! (nw613)

  3. I am embracing Be a little messy!! I love the look of a messy updo, my red lipstick, and my beloved Prada sunglasses!!! It is so freeing and I actually smile a whole lot more, and flirt too!

    • So great to hear it Carrie. Pursue them little by little every day, and you will find the quality of your life increasing dramatically.

  4. So many great things on this list! I agree with Talia- you’ve stated these so well! Many, I’ve taken on over the years, others are good reminders! Thanks Tonya!

  5. Great list Tonya! I created a morning ritual for myself a few months ago and it’s made such a difference. I wake up a little earlier now so I can have a cup of coffee and read for about 15 minutes before I go for my morning run and then get ready to head to work. Fifteen minutes may not seem like much time, but that cup of coffee and a quick indulgence in my latest book starts my day off on such a positive note. It helps me to wake up before I hit the treadmill and gives me a few minutes of peace before jumping into the rush of my day.

    • I love that you emphasize the power of just 15 minutes. Many people don’t think that such a short amount of time can have such a big impact, but like you, the first 15 minutes of my day are the most important. It sets the tone and intention for what how I want to feel, who I want to be and what I want to do.

      Thank you!

  6. French people “flanne” in France mostly because the country is amazingly pretty. You have beautiful villages where you must “flanne” thru the little streets to see all the magical shops and architectures. There are always many little stores with great products, often made by family own companies and not products made in China or India.
    French like to enjoy life. They like to apreciate their life. That is one of the main reason they “flanne”.
    From the time we are baby, we learn how to apreciate our food, how to apreciate life and not rush.

    If you want to learn more about French lifestyle, contact me. I am a French woman living in NYC. I know both way of life and I recreate the French lifestyle in busy Manhattan and suburban New Jersey.

    Isabelle the French woman in NY/NJ
    http://www.kenisahome.com. Where you can bring French decor to your home.

    • I want to add, as a true French Woman, Tonya has definitely capture the essence of why and how French women are effortless elegant. I always like to read her comments and posts on the French lifestyle view thru an American eye.

      • Hi Isabelle,

        I always love when a French woman stops by to add to the conversation. I realize I will never be French, no matter how hard I try. However, I love taking the beauty and lessons from your culture and infusing them into my life.

        Sending love to NYC!

  7. I love this article but I am left wondering…’HOW’?

    It began by asking me whether I am tired of being overwhelmed and stressed out, and I’m thinking, “Yes, tell me how to feel differently and live differently,” but I left the article more overwhelmed and stressed out than before. Now, on top of everything else I already do in my stressed out life, I am supposed to stroll around, take time to dress beautifully every day, linger over meals and over my morning coffee, learn about wine, learn to cook, learn to be a hostess…

    This is great for someone who doesn’t work and has no responsibilities like house and kids, but for the rest of us, it seems to be just adding more work and stuff into our already hectic lives.

    I don’t say this to complain or criticize the article. No, I say this because I would like more information. I know that Tonya works and has a daughter, so she must have ways of incorporating these things into an already busy life. So, I would like to ask her or anyone else for ideas on how to do the things in this article when you are already busy. (And no, I don’t do a lot of extra stuff in my life like running kids around, doing projects, etc. I go to work, come home, make dinner, talk to my family, do a little cleaning or household stuff, and go to bed.)

    • French women have the same lifestyle as yours. They wake up, go to work, come home, cook, and go to bed most of the time. But they have different schedule. They go to work at 8am , take 1 hour 1/2 lunch and finish working at 7pm. During lunch, they do take time to enjoy their meal.
      When we cook, we try new recipes, we try to add new favors to make most of our meal interesting. We do not snack all day. We like to have our dinner seating down at a table. No TV while we eat. We enjoy chatting a lot!
      They like wine, because we learn in early age how to apreciate it.
      In early age, we learn how to dress up. We don’t go out not dress up. But we do not use too much make up. Therefore, the time an American woman will spend “putting her face on” , we will spend in picking the right clothes for the day. A nice pair of jeans and a white shirt and flat ballet for the weekend. A pencil skirt and blouse, of the same jeans with a nicely cut jacket will be great for work. For us, less is more.
      It is a different lifestyle, but we learnt it at a very early age. I am teaching it to my stepsons and it is overwhelming them:-)

    • Hi Angela,

      Here’s what I know: if your mind is wired for overwhelm, you’ll find it everywhere (including this article). That took me years to realize, but I first had to work on my mindset to wire it for ease before I could ever experience it.

      Yes, I am a single mom, run my company, have a home to manage, and regular day to day responsibilities (laundry, anyone?). And, somedays, I manage better than others.

      However, it takes the same amount of time to choose a beautiful outfit as a frumpy one. If I’m walking downtown, it doesn’t add much time to slow down and actually take in a beautiful moment.

      One of the shifts that helped me to create more space in my life is getting super clear on my priorities. If everything is important, nothing truly is. At any given season in my life, I typically have 3 areas of focus that gets most of my attention. Everything else must wait.

      This is very different from before where I was trying to be everything to everyone and was so run down.

      Thank you for sharing your experience, and what I can offer you is that you are on the right path, because you’re asking the important questions.

      Sending you love!

      T

  8. I just got a follow over on Instagram by Tonya (Tonya’s account) which brought me straight here (as I’m utterly in love with Paris in particular and France in general). I’m SO glad that I did end up here as this article has reminded me of something and stepped in just in time before I was about to embark on another ‘diet’. I KNOW that this is not the way to go, one of my absolute favourite blogs is the Manger blog of Mimi Thorrison who is French and definitely eats very well and embodies all that you talk about in this article. This way of life and in particular way of eating, just makes the most sense. And I have to remember that (unfortunately I do also have to fit into a bridesmaid dress in a month that is VERY on the tight side at the moment – hence the almost starting a diet).
    I was going to head out for a power walk this morning but I think I’ll take a stroll instead. And I’m already working on bringing more beauty and delight into my life (again thanks largely to Mimi) by buying fresh flowers every week. But I’m also going to stop off at the Italian deli and buy some wonderful food rather than heading to the supermarket for some cottage cheese!

    Yay. Thanks!!
    Susie
    xx

    • Hey, hey IG friend (love IG, BTW).

      I stopped dieting years ago (after my weight yo-yo’ed from a size 20 to a 2). Threw the diet books in the trash and decided to live differently. (BTW, I was obsessed with dieting. It was like a drug.).

      These days, I do exercise and I’m very particular about what I eat, but it’s done from a very different place (out of love not fear).

      Took me years to get to this place, but it’s been worth as I learned so much about myself.

      Sending you love!

  9. HeLlo Tonya,
    I thank you so much for your inspiring words. I love everything you have to said. I have you podcast on most of the day. especially when I’m feeling down. You have the power to bring me back up. tbe title”Eat at the table and stay there’ reminds so much of when I was a little girl> i grew up in Argentina and we called that “sobremesa” it is the custom to stay in the table after dinner to have a long conversation with your family. I remember so many laughs from those moments. I will start planning it for my current family, who know it might stick.
    thank you for your wonderful inspiration.

    • Hi Jackie,

      Thanks so much for your comment. I’m honored to be in your ear most days :).

      Argentina is definitely on my must-visit list. Tango, anyone?

  10. Love this one too Tonya, I have no problem strolling throughout my town, it is good exercise and it is mostly my mode of transportation, I do not drive. What really bother’s me though is finding good quality clothes such as skirts that have decent hemlines. Have you seen the hemlines on skirts and dresses now? They practically show bits you do not want to have seen in public. I’ve shopped Nordstrom, which has the shortest dresses I have ever seen, Macy’s same thing, too short of a hemline. I like my skirts and dresses to at least hit at the knees, not mid thigh or above. Maybe I am too modest but having a hemline that is appropriate is classy to me. Any suggestions on other places to shop online or even in person that sells good quality clothes with decent hemlines? I tend to wear more skirts and dresses than pants, although I do wear pants too, I just find that dresses and skirts are more feminine to me.

    • Hey Susan,

      Yes, those hemlines are getting shorter, aren’t they?

      Have you checked J Crew or ModCloth (more vintage inspired clothing)?

      I’m a dress and skirt wearer too (and I’m tall), so I’m hoping my bits don’t fall out…LOL!

  11. I am just now leaving Santa Fe, NM where I wandered up and down the street and talked to people of like minds, window shopped and took my time. I feel rejuvenated! Didn’t buy anything. I have all I need and am grateful I had this day to myself. Great article!💖

      • Hi Tonya, That picture of you with The Naughty Guide to Paris? That is my sister Heather’s book. Perhaps you know her. I finally made my first trip to Paris this past October and it was life changing!

  12. New Orleans is an adult amusement park for sleazy adults. But Paris is an amusement park for Classy Adults. I love Parisian Women on so many levels. There IS Sex, but there is also getting a good night’s sleep with a beautiful Woman who is your best friend.

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