Frenchie Friday: How to Live in Luxury


“Her whole being dilated in an atmosphere of luxury. It was the background she required, the only climate she could breathe in.” 
― Edith Wharton, The House of Mirth

My business manager informed me a few weeks ago that a search for “luxurious living” came up with “Tonya Leigh and French Kiss Life, Inc.”

Who? Moi?   What a way to be known, especially when I think of the childhood beliefs I had for years around money:   not enough, not deserving, not good enough, blah, blah blah….

Yet, I am a big believer in staying close to the things that make you feel alive.  And, anything that feels luxurious melts my heart.

While my journey has been fascinating, one filled financial hardship, extreme excess and settling into elegant simplicity, I’ve learned what luxury is and isn’t.

And, guess who taught me?

The French, of course.

From Hermès to Christian Louboutin, luxury is the backbone of French culture. They take an exceptional amount of pride in their fashion, food, wine, and way of living,

But they also understand that luxury does not need to equate to money. In fact, for the French person, luxurious living has more to do with quality time than stuff.

“Some people think luxury is the opposite of poverty. It is not. It is the opposite of vulgarity.”
― Coco Chanel

Take a look at any French woman’s wardrobe, and you’ll see that she treasures her Louis Vuitton bag and beloved Repettos, but a closet filled with mindless stuff? Never.

Luxurious living is a mindset, a way of living, feeling, and being.

More importantly, luxury is accessible to you right now.

I began my practice in French Kissing Life when I was working as a full-time nurse and was barely getting by financially. This philosophy changed my life entirely.

When I started appreciating my health, morning sunrises, afternoon sunsets, a meal prepared by mom and all of the small nuances of every day living, my life began to feel a lot more luxurious.

As I started to shift my focus from what I believed to be lacking to what I had in abundance, my state of being changed dramatically.

If you want to live a life of luxury, you must begin to cultivate the feeling of abundance, beauty and passion now. As you do, you’ll shift how you’re showing up in the world, and like myself, attract more luxurious experiences to enjoy.  

Here are some ways I indulge in the world of Luxury (notice how simple many of them are):  

:: A deep feeling that I am worthy of whatever my heart desires (without this, you’ll push all the goodness away).

:: Taking complete responsibility for your own life and joie de vivre.

:: Taking the time to enjoy life.

:: Respecting that a good handbag gets better, and more classic over time.

:: A signature scent that shares your journey as a woman.

:: Dancing all night.

:: A simplified to-do list

:: A perfectly paired glass of Bandol with oysters

:: Trips to Paris that are marked in my passport.

:: Girlfriends who celebrate and support one another.

:: A decadent piece of chocolate paired with a glass of Bordeaux by the fire.

:: A simple, high quality wardrobe with classic, essential pieces that will never age.

:: Living every moment with sheer and unquestionable passion.

:: Elegant linens

:: A Clean, clutter free home

:: Sauntering, slowing down and being present

:: Simplicity

:: An elegant home that is clean, clutter free, and filled only with things I love.

:: A handwritten love note.

:: Beautifully crafted stationery.

:: Being the CEO of your mind.

:: Working to live, not living to work.

:: Appreciating art in all of its splendid forms.

:: Local food grown with love and care.

:: Time spent in nature and quietude.

:: Pursuing your dreams and desires in a way that feels delicious and real.

:: Owning who you are and what you love without apology.

:: Celebrating differences vs. comparing them

:: Walking into a room and feeling completely at home in your body.

:: Enjoying sunrises and sunsets and taking the time to appreciate them.

:: Dancing under the moonlight.

:: A garden

:: Belly laughs that leave your body hurting.

:: Waking up excited about your day and taking a big, deep breath in for awareness.

:: Feeling beautiful in your body.

:: Music, music, music.

:: Finding beauty in ordinary moments.

:: Reading a juicy novel under a shady tree.

:: Truffle oil.

:: Glamping (yes, that’s glamour + camping).

:: Skinny-dipping under the stars.

:: Enjoying the freedom to express yourself.

:: A gorgeous pair of shoes.

:: A decadent night-time routine.

:: Using your fine china on a Monday night… just because.

:: Showing up for yourself constantly.

:: Dining on nourishing and delicious foods without all the diet drama.

:: Moving your body daily in a way that feels good to you.

::  A beautifully tied scarf

:: Passionately kissing.

:: Being present with your loved ones.

:: Feeling relaxed and at ease with your finances (aka living luxuriously on a budget)

:: Taking risks and going after what you desire.

:: Allowing your desires to flow freely for, and towards, you.

:: Sunday picnics.

:: Sleeping in.

:: Breakfast in bed.

:: Afternoon tea properly served.

:: Lavender spritzed on your pillow.

:: Working in a gorgeous hotel lobby (and it doesn’t cost a dime, except for the cup of tea or glass of Champagne that you may want to indulge in).

Everyone of these can be experienced in the moment.  While you may not be in Paris, you can bring Paris to you.  While your home may not be completely clutter free, you can put a few things in their place.  And, while you may not have Turkish linens, you can take extremely great care of what you do have.

To experience luxury, you must surround yourself with beauty, abundance and pleasures now. (tweet it)

What luxurious experiences do you enjoy?  Please share in the comments below.

In Love and Luxury,



(P.S. I opened up space for three private clients in June and they filled immediately.  July is almost full.  I have one space left.  If you want to be coached and supported around creating a luxurious life, don’t wait.  These spaces will go fast.  Simply email and my team will email you the deets.)

(P.P.S. In just one session, one of my clients said, “I feel like you just shook up everything I thought I knew about life, and I’m seeing more possibility than ever.”  That’s luxurious!)

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9 Responses to Frenchie Friday: How to Live in Luxury

  1. Hello Tonya,

    Every time I drift away into worry and negative thoughts, I quickly turn my attention to your posts. I become alive again. Thank you so much for yet another wonderful post. I am looking forward Frenchie Fridays!!


  2. I love orchids and have really good luck growing them. Even though I’m financially not where I dream of being, I always find enough money to purchase an orchid or two.

  3. Luxury is not being rushed, living life with something to look forward to daily and being observant of all beautiful things from birdsong to sunset.

    This harvest season of gathering at sunset and admiring the plumpness of each berry….
    The people we have met on this journey….
    And knowing that this dream will fund the next….
    Knowing that there will always be enough….
    Eating the best food no matter what budget….
    Enjoying excellent health that gives the energy to pursue life….
    Having the opportunity to read “soul food” such as this….

  4. After a year of planning & prep, I left my 8-5 government job to go back to my first love: selling real estate. I excelled in the field years ago but due to life changes (a divorce & a move half way across the country) I had two young children to support and was forced to find a job with benefits. I’ve since remarried and, with my husbands encouragement and support, have stepped back into real estate. Your posts remind me of what I am capable of and how worthy I am to follow my dream. Being self-employed is certainly challenging but the luxury of time to pursue my goals and enjoying the ride along the way feels decadent!! I’m learning to love my life in a whole new way. I went from dreading getting out of bed every morning to being excited about the possibilities of each new day. Thank you, Tonya!! I love your posts and website!

  5. Wonderful Tonya!
    As an artist painter working for myself, it’s a challenge to stop working, painting and doing all of the things a self employed gal has to do. So one of my favourite “luxurious” indulgences is to entertain a close friend for dinner. Then I have to “turn off”. I prepare a simple delicious meal, set a gorgeous table with bamboo place mats, linen napkins and beautiful dishes, light the candelabras … put on some relaxing jazz or reggae tunes and pour us a glass of bubbly to start. Then we chat, laugh, wine and dine the evening away … 🙂 Feels like a mini vacation.

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