Frenchie Friday: What Does Your Wardrobe Say About You?

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“Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman.” ― Coco Chanel

I’m no stylist, but give me the opportunity to help a woman express and awaken her personal beauty and finesse, and I guarantee she will rethink what’s possible in her life.

Everything is energy.  The fabrics, styles and colors that you wrap your gorgeous body in are certainly part of this.

Ahem… I’m talking about your wardrobe.

Weight loss, entrepreneurship and femininity are recurring focuses surrounding the women I work with. You could say my speciality is “women stuff”.

And the way you dress is one of the greatest access points into leveraging your feminine essence (tweet it). 

“Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening. — Coco Chanel

Here’s an example: I recently hurt my back and was reduced to yoga wear and flip-flops. Sure, there’s nothing wrong with comfort and LuluLemon, but everyday? Life becomes a bit dull.

After one too many days of mindless dressing, I began to notice my lackadaisical attitude spilling over into other areas of my life. In grabbing for my sweat pants, I was also reaching for an extra piece of chocolate, an extra episode of Gossip Girl and procrastination.

Repeatedly, I have seen this. This pattern has affected my life and the women who I work with. What I’ve discovered is that clothes are more powerful than we often think.

“Fashion is very important. It is life-enhancing and, like everything that gives pleasure, it is worth doing well.” — Vivienne Westwood

This last weekend, one of my gorgeous French Kiss the World Society members told me she hadn’t worn a dress in years. As she vocalized this, wearing a beautiful and sassy dress, she knew that her femininity and freedom were beginning to shine through. Her beauty radiated.

Now, I’m not telling you that in order to shine, you have to wear a dress. In fact, you don’t have to wear anything at all (although that’s a different conversation). But, what I am suggesting is that the way you represent yourself on the outside is absolutely a reflection of how you feel on the inside.

And, if you are seeking internal change, dressing in a way that reflects who you aspire to be could give you a boost of inspiration and joy.

So… what does this have to do with Frenchie Friday?

Well… a lot, actually.

While I don’t like to oversimplify– because I have met many French women who don’t put much effort in their wardrobe– for the most part, French women approach their wardrobe with a true sense of beauty, quality and sensuality.

Their approach towards fashion and style has earned French women the title of the chicest women in the world.

They express their womanhood in part through their clothing choices. They invest in beautiful lingerie, a classic wardrobe, and feminine accessories.

They keep it simple, self-expressive and feminine.

The great news is that you don’t have to be a millionaire in invest in a wardrobe of beautiful, quality pieces. I love haute couture fashion, but your ideal wardrobe can be created from a range of possibilities– from TJ Maxx to Bergdorfs.

“Fashion is not necessarily about labels. It’s not about brands. It’s about something else that comes from within you.” — Ralph Lauren

The label doesn’t matter, how it makes you feel does. (Tweet it.)

Sure, this is just a small part of the puzzle, but it is a big factor in how we feel and express ourselves to the world.

“Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak.” — Rachel Zoe

There are more impactful things in life, like attitude, treating people well and spirituality, but whoever said clothes are not part of the spiritual equation?

I have witnessed God in Saks. And, I have kissed the Divine while sauntering the streets of Paris in heels.

It’s time we honor who we are as women: sensual, creative and desirable creatures.

Does your wardrobe reflect that?

And, before I leave, I’m happy to report that I have been rocking a summer wardrobe that has reignited my love for style, being a woman and life itself.  Simply put:  Style is fun!

So, here’s a style challenge for you:  go into your closet and allow your clothes to speak to you.  Which pieces are no longer aligned with the woman you desire to BE?  What pieces make you feel alive and radiant?  Begin to edit your closet to include only those pieces you love.  It’s better to have a few beautiful pieces than a closet full of stuff that doesn’t align with who you truly are.   If you’d like to share one of your favorite pieces, you can share on Instagram and use the hashtag #frenchkisslife or over on the Facebook page.

With Love and Style,

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Tonya

(P.S. In my signature Slim, Chic and Savvy program, we talk about style and how it impacts your waistline.  (Yes, there is a direct correlation).  If you want to get on the waiting list for this legendary program, click here.  It’s not a diet; it’s a lifestyle.  And, we’re starting this fall!)

(P.P.S. I am loving my Stitch Fix.  Just yesterday, I received five compliments on a dress that came via mail for only $60.  Again, I’ve seen women wear haute couture poorly, and I’ve seen women who know how to rock a bargain.)

Photo Credit:  Red Scarf Shots

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Frenchie Friday: How I Lost Weight and Finally Made Peace with My Body

10407375_10202850396994633_4375136666921571564_nThe magnitude of pleasure reaches its limit in the removal of all pain. 

When such pleasure is present, so long as it is uninterrupted,

there is no pain either of body or of mind or of both together.

- Epicurus

Fifteen years ago, my body was carrying around 75 extra pounds. Yes, you heard me right… 75.

Underneath that exterior, was a sad and confused woman. She had become so disconnected from her body that doughnuts and ice cream were pleasurable escapes and the idea of lying on the sofa after work, glued to the television, was the best way to wind down.

She believed that any effort to change should be extreme and involve deprivation. I was a yo-yo girl: I went to South Beach, tried to be a Skinny Bitch and lived in The Zone.

Sure, I lost weight through dieting, but it was torturous. Even when I starved myself into a size two, there wasn’t a single moment that I wasn’t obsessing about food and my body.

And what do you think happened after I lost that weight?

Yep, it always came back.

Why?

Because, regardless of how skinny I became, I had a fat mind.

If you only focus on changing your external circumstances and are not mindful of what’s happening internally, you will never be at peace. (Tweet)

So… what changed?

I discovered Paris. My love and passion for the City of Lights is about so much more than great shopping, culture and art. The city taught me how to enjoy pleasure and fall in love with the world.

Now, I teach women around the world this life-changing philosophy to help you think, eat and live like a natural Slim, Chic and Savvy woman.

True pleasure and satisfaction comes from that which keep giving, long after the experience ends. (Tweet)

Pleasure takes on many forms, which is fabulous news. There are endless possibilities of what we can derive pleasure from. A bite of decadent chocolate, a pleasant moonlit stroll after dinner, snuggling up with your darling, dressing exquisitely for work or a very special occasion, reading a juicy novel, or dancing in your living room to your favorite music.

Unlike false pleasures (the ones that aren’t very long-lasting), true pleasure doesn’t leave you feeling guilty, shameful, or in a state of self-loathing.

True pleasure fills your life (mind, body and soul) with beauty, love and connection with yourself and others.  (tweet it)

Many women who I work with regarding weight have something in common: lives consumed with false pleasures.

When we begin replacing these false pleasures with true ones, it’s amazing what the results look like. I have been so fortunate to witness lives and bodies transformed and becoming beautiful canvases with pleasure as the brush.

Ask yourself: what are you painting your life with?

With Pleasure,

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Tonya

(P.S. I am opening enrollment for my signature Slim, Chic and Savvy 12-Week Immersion program in the fall.  As one of the graduates said, “Out of all the programs I’ve ever done (and I’ve done a lot), this one is hands down the best.  It’s about so much more than weight loss; it’s now my lifestyle.”  Click here to get on the waiting list and be the first to know.)

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