“You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.”
― Pema Chödrön
Recently, a nickname has been brought to my attention: The ease whisperer.
If you know a little about me, you most likely know that I despise words like grind and pressure, and the term “pushing your way to success” holds no place in my vocabulary.
I’ll leave those for men in power suits on Wall Street, thank you.
I want our journeys to be filled with something much different.
My feminine heart believes:
The journey to the dream should be as beautiful as the dream itself,
and entered into with ease.
But, how do we define ease? Here is what I found:
:: Not difficult.
:: Freedom from great effort, financial need and worry.
:: Freedom from constraint or stiffness.
:: Release from pressure or tension.
The greatest misconception I often hear from high-achieving women is that in order to earn wealth, success and fame, they must treat life like a man and trade in their graceful femininity for dominating masculinity.
But, what I will encourage you, as I encourage them, is that a life of ease and grace comes with many terrific benefits (tweet it).
These include– but are certainly not limited to– increased productivity, joy, creativity and satisfaction.
Also be aware that:
I love to create, add value and do things in the world.
I love to be productive.
I do not sit on beaches in the South of France and sip rosé .
Okay . . . on occasion you will find me there. But, it’s because I work smart and efficiently as well.
I have adopted a life model of ease. It looks a little like this:
I work, at most, five days a week (four is my average).
I strategically design my life.
I prioritize friends, family, loved ones and leisure.
I choose physical activities that energize me.
Even when I sometimes miss the mark, I aim for ease is in everything I do.
Here are 15 ways to put more ease into your day:
1. First thing’s first: prioritize. If you have 100 things on your to-do list today, choose the most important and simplify. Focusing on just a few things per day will allow you to give them your best. Have a master list of things that are most important for you, but don’t expect to get them all done in one day. Every night, I decide what my top three priorities are for the next day, write them down, and wake up knowing what I have chosen to do… and do it.
2. When you wake up, breathe. Don’t immediately grab for the phone or computer to check emails, social media, or anything else. Ease into your day with a delicious cup of coffee or tea, meditate, listen to calming music, stretch, or do anything else that slowly eases your mind and body into the start of a new fabulous day.
3. Don’t tell yourself: “I don’t have time.” The truth is that you are the designer of your life and you create time. Believing and owning this statement will release you of so much pressure of the daily grind that you will feel so much freer to live with ease. When I embraced this truth, I found more time than I knew what to do with.
4. A lot of mental energy is spent on the useless parts of life like what people will think of you, what you “coulda, shoulda, woulda” done, and other areas that aren’t deserving of your precious time. Ease will flow through you when you live within your own world and create from your soul.
5. Maintain a clutter-free environment. Wake up and go to bed with a clean and neat house. Ease does not exist in clutter.
6. Make self-care a priority. When you don’t take care of yourself, you will run into problems that will complicate your life. Self-care is not a luxury, it is a necessity.
7. Stay in your own business. Drama and ease don’t mix. Focus on what you are doing in the world and your reactions to it. Let everyone else be.
8. Know thyself. When you know what your values and natural strengths and commit to designing your life around them, you will discover that ease is the result.
9. When you find yourself resisting or pushing through life, ask yourself: “How can I create ease around this issue?” Your mind will seek the answers to the questions you ask. Ask good ones.
10. Visualize your day before it begins. Before your feet hit the ground, choose to enjoy a day of ease. Yes, challenges may arise, but if you stay aware and present, you will be much better equipped to handle them.
11. Look for creatives paths of ease. Sometimes, assumptions block us from seeing a better path. Always feel your way into what feels like luxurious ease.
12. Choose action over worry. Without awareness, you could spend a lifetime consumed with illusions that will most likely never happen. If you find yourself worrying, take an action step with something that you have control over. Sit down with your finances and map out a plan, make a call, go for a run, whatever it needs to be. Inspired action will lead to a life of ease.
14. Eat with ease. All the rushing, guilt, deprivation, and numbing out often linked to food will lead you further away from living a life of ease. Sit down, savor, nourish your body with delicious foods, eat until elegantly satisfied, and enjoy piece of chocolate or cheese guilt-free. The table is a beautiful place to practice ease.
15. Most of life’s self-induced pressure arises from taking life not in stride, but running it like a never-ending race. There is no hurry. Slow down. What you will most likely experience is your ease speeding up, not your mind.
In the end, ease is a state of mind.
I already gave you some defining words for ease, but before I leave, let’s take a look at other words that represent ease: serenity, luxury, contentment, affluence, prosperity, calmness, and happiness.
And its opposite: agitation, discontent, displeasure, disturbance, misery, work, unrest, perplexity, strife, and turmoil.
Darling, which state of mind do you want to live in? Which do you currently live in? How will you commit to living a life filled with that vision? How will you commit to adding more ease into every day? I’d love to hear in the comments below.
With Love and Ease,
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